I would like to think that in the past decade or so since models Emme and Crystal Renn have strutted down the runways of fashion designers the world over the media would have gotten over the shock of seeing plus size models as desirable and worthy of magazine covers. (Or, well, what the fashion industry considers plus size, which is different than what the rest of the world considers plus size, but that’s another story. As is the fact that Crystal Renn is no longer a plus size model.)
Seems like it would be pretty much cultural white noise at this point in our society, yet yesterday I yet again found myself reading a headline that said Plus Size Model Stuns On Edgy Cover and I seriously wanted to throw something at the computer screen.
Don’t get me wrong: Tara Lynn is absolutely gorgeous. Of course, the cover is so Photoshopped they took, like, 20 pounds off her but that’s not my real problem with this. My real problem is that her cover is still being treated like a novelty. Yes, yes, it’s the Huffington Post and not The New York Times but the fact remains. It’s as though journalists are just shocked — shocked, I tell you! — to discover they find themselves attracted to photos of a half-naked heavier woman.
Because, to tell you the truth, I’m fairly certain that’s what’s going on: they are so drunk on the Barbie Doll Complex Kool Aid that they sincerely cannot process the concept of finding such a woman desirable until it’s literally staring them in the face on the cover of a magazine and they are so completely stunned by this revelation they treat it like they are a 13 year old boy who thinks he’s the first person to discover masturbation.
I think this is also why they continue to use the “plus size” term: because, yet again, they are so shocked and stunned to discover they find her beautiful and sexy and hot and blah blah that they go all “Look at what I found!” with jazz hands and everything.
Guess what? Women who wear double digits — be it size 10, 20, and beyond — are just as sexy and beautiful as those in the single digits. More than that, I’m going to let all the skeptics in on a little secret: there are actually men out there who even find us so sexy they want to sleep with us.
It’s okay, go ahead and take a moment to recover.
Let’s also take a moment to consider that we aren’t models. We are normal, every day, average, women and there are men and women who want to date us and sleep with us and marry us and they don’t need a magazine to tell them that it’s okay to find us attractive.
Love from the ashes,