body image, books

the wolf who wins is the wolf you feed

This was not at all the post I had planned for this morning, but I’ve been reading the recently released third book in Deborah Harkness‘ All Souls Trilogy and one particular paragraph really struck me.

And when I say the paragraph “struck me,” what I mean is I immediately stopped reading so I could write this post. So you just know that whatever it was, it’s gotta be good.

Of course, I know plenty of people who read this blog who also are fans of the trilogy and I’m sure there are even more of you out there I don’t know are fans, so without spoiling anything I’m just going to share the paragraph without any context related to the book:

“According to my grandmother’s people, two wolves live inside every creature: one evil and the other good. They spend all their time trying to destroy each other…Nana Bets said the wolf who wins is the wolf you feed. The evil wolf feeds on anger, guilt, sorrow, lies, and regret. The good wolf needs a diet of love and honesty, spiced up with big spoonfuls of compassion and faith. So if you want the good wolf to win, you’re going to have to starve the other one.”

This so eloquently and succinctly sums up body image and healthy living and weight loss, like, I can’t even.

We each have two wolves in us: the good wolf and the evil wolf and these two wolves are constantly doing battle with each other and whichever wolf we acknowledge or pay attention to is the wolf who succeeds.

Think of it in terms of body image: you’re having a bad body image day (or, hell, a bad body image life) and you’re feeling down on yourself so y’know, you start talking smack. All about your fat thighs and muffin top and how nobody will ever love you and whatever. By doing that you’re feeding the evil wolf and the more you feed that evil wolf, the bigger and fatter and more powerful he’s going to become.

So, the next time that happens, try and feed the good wolf instead. The other day, Organically Mo had a great post where she mentioned every day she stands in front of the mirror and thinks something positive about herself. It doesn’t have to be related to her physical appearance, but it does have to be affirming.

That is Mo feeding her good wolf.

I started feeding my good wolf at FitBloggin when I decided to accept and love my body right now and it has completely changed my attitude towards myself and my lifestyle.

This is not going to be an overnight thing. Instead, it’s kinda like owning a pet, right? You can’t just stop feeding your pet and expect everything to be okay. Feeding your Good Wolf is a continuous process that has to happen on a daily basis. But the more you feed that wolf, the bigger, and fatter, and more powerful that wolf will become.

So the next time your Evil Wolf starts howling at the moon and whatnot, just tell that wolf to STFU because you have work to do

Love from the ashes,
Lady Lazarus

5 thoughts on “the wolf who wins is the wolf you feed”

  1. Love this! Such a great mental image to go along with a healthy mindset to get into. Sometimes it's hard to stay positive towards yourself while trying to lose weight, at least for me. I start focusing on all my “flaws” more. When I catch it I turn the thinking around, but it can be easy to miss.

    And that trilogy sounds pretty awesome. I'm going to have to check it out! 🙂


  2. Wow, that is so good! I saved the pic to my pinterest board. I've been reading you for a while but am just now popping in to say hi 🙂


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